Create the Life You Imagine

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” Mother Teresa

As George Floyd’s life breath was being pressed out of his body by the police on the streets of Minneapolis, he called out in his final moments for his mother. As we consider the deep state of suffering, trauma, grief, outrage and unrest in the world today, I can’t help but to see his cry as a spiritual metaphor—as a call for the presence of the archetypal “mother” energy and for a rebalancing of our world by calling in the feminine energy in our personal and collective lives. Archetypally, the energy of the mother is a universal symbol for the feminine energy. The mother energy provides the safe womb for our creation, brings us into life through the difficult labor of birth, and stands by watchfully throughout our lives as a fierce and steadfast source of nurturing, protection, love and support. We energetically reach out for the mother energy or the feminine energy when we are sick, struggling, scared, alone, sorrowful or suffering. We seek the energy of the feminine when we need the presence of connection, tenderness, kindness, gentleness, empathy, compassion, acceptance and love.

While our western religious traditions have largely presented a masculine image of God—God the father, the bearded man on the throne watching and judging from the distance in heaven—it is imperative that we remember that the energy of the Divine is both masculine and feminine and that we need both the masculine and feminine energies or currents operating in balance to create the spiritual conditions we need to thrive and flourish. While the masculine energy is active energy associated with the elevated energy of Spirit, the feminine energy is receptive energy associated with the embodied energy of the earth. Father Spirit calls us to rise up and transcend our human experience, while Mother Earth calls us into deep and sacred relationship with our bodies, with each other and with the planet as we bring spirit into form through our embodied lives.

Eastern, Celtic and Indigenous religious traditions offer many more feminine images of God, but even in our western traditions we can find the imagery of the feminine. In the life of Jesus for example, we see the feminine energy standing by during the pivotal experiences of his life. We see his mother saying yes to the angel Gabriel hazarding her social status and safety by conceiving and creating the Divine life in her body, making a treacherous journey while pregnant and giving birth in the manger, looking frantically for her son in the temple to bring him home when she thought he was lost, and standing at the foot of the cross, bearing witness to his suffering and death as his life was pressed out of his body by the authorities of the day.

But we also find the feminine energy at the empty tomb as Mary Magdalene bears witness to the resurrection. The feminine energy in this form recognizes the transformation underway that may not be seen by others. The feminine energy does not stand at a distance, watching and judging us, but rather surrounds and supports us through the messy and difficult experiences of life with a deep and embodied awareness and sacred presence. The feminine energy is strong enough and wise enough and close enough to hold and transform our suffering, and to stretch and breathe, and moan and weep with us like a good midwife as we give birth to something new.

The present conditions of our world remind us of our need for the energy of the feminine. The masculine energy out of balance with the feminine has produced systems of racial, gender, religious, political, social and economic injustice which deaden us to our deeper spiritual calling. We see the evidence of this imbalance in the suffering on our streets and in the suffering of our planet. The imbalance threatens to press the life out of our humanity and out of the earth. We must all cry out now for the energy of the Mother and for the balancing feminine current of the Godhead to help us heal and to help us see, recognize and support the transformation that is underway.

Whether we are male or female, we all need to strike that balance between our masculine and feminine energies. Engaging our feminine energy can be a challenge if we haven’t had deep experiences of that energy in our lives. Even if we had the privilege of a “good mother” energy in our lives, we have been steeped in a world that runs on masculine principles. The masculine energy focuses on the external life encouraging action, productivity, accomplishment and outcomes, and largely ignores the inner life of stillness, quiet, reflection, awareness, connection and deeper consciousness. The masculine energy runs on surface time and we all know the never enough feeling of living in surface time. The feminine energy runs on deep time and is rooted in the timelessness of the present moment and the knowing that life is a deep and sacred process that we must participate in with all of our awareness. Much of our outer life is driven by our unconscious participation in surface time, caught up in the busyness and distractions of life moving so fast that we can get caught in patterns of callousness and insensitivity to our own suffering and to the suffering of others. When we ignore our suffering, it eventually wells up and erupts in ways that damage ourselves and our relationships with others.